Resources for Coping with Tragedy and Disasters – Information from the Florida State University Center for Prevention & Early Intervention Policy
Help your child feel safe: One of the most important things parents or caregivers can do is to help their child feel safe.
Provide reassurance: Reassure children that steps are being taken to keep them safe. This can be done by pointing out things that are in place to keep them safe.
Restore the child’s normal routine: As soon as you can, go back to a normal routine. This means doing things like singing songs if you always sing songs with your child. Or read stories at the time you usually do. Bedtime and mealtime at familiar times are very helpful to children. Children function better when they know what to expect. Keep in mind that you do not want to force children to return to all routines if they are unable to do so because of their distress. Helping children understand and process events is also important.
Express feelings: Infants and toddlers may express themselves differently. They may cry more. They may be harder to soothe. They may become more fussy. Holding and cuddling may soothe your child. Soft music may soothe infants. Toddlers may have more temper tantrums. They may want to cling to you. Preschool and older children may like to draw or tell stories to express their feelings.
Ask questions: Parents and caregivers should ask children if they have questions or concerns. This helps children know that it is ok to talk. If your child asks questions, allow the child’s questions to lead the discussion. If your child does not have questions, do not push. He or she may be more willing to talk later.
Share information: Explain events as simply and directly as possible. Because every child is different, take cues from your child as to how much information to share. Remember that even young children will hear about major events and that it is best to hear about them from a parent or caregiver and not the media.
Acknowledge losses: Children are not only trying to deal with the disaster, but with everything else that follows. They may have to relocate, at least temporarily, and could be separated from friends or unable to attend the same school. Parents may have less income and the change in finances may change daily activities. Allow children to express their regrets over these “secondary losses.”
Have fun: Find ways to have fun with your child or to be silly together. If your child likes to play peek-a-boo or play a favorite game, do those things. Laughter can be healing.
Reconnect with community: Take care of yourself. This will help you take care of your child. Find ways to get support. Talking with others can be helpful. If you notice changes in yourself, seek help from your Head Start/Early Head Start program.
Be flexible and patient: Getting back to “normal” can take a while. Take care of yourself.
Limit exposure to media coverage of the event: Images of the disaster or crisis on the TV, internet, radio, newspaper, and other social media may frighten or stress children more. Avoid or limit children’s exposure to distressing pictures in the media.
- Helping Your Child Cope After a Disaster | https://eclkc.ohs.acf.hhs.gov/hslc/tta-system/health/docs/coping-with-disaster-eng.pdf
- Children’s Responses to Crises and Tragic Events | http://eclkc.ohs.acf.hhs.gov/hslc/tta-system/health/docs/response-to-crisis-english.pdf
- Helping Young Children Who Have Experienced Trauma: Policies and Strategies for Early Care and Education | https://www.childtrends.org/publications/ecetrauma/
- Child Trauma Toolkit for Educators | http://www.nctsnet.org/nctsn_assets/pdfs/Child_Trauma_Toolkit_Final.pdf
- Trauma & Toxic Stress | http://floridatrauma.org/resources.php
- Talking to Children about the Shooting | http://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/assets/pdfs/talking_to_children_about_the_shooting.pdf
- Psychological Impact of the Recent Shooting | http://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/assets/pdfs/psychological_information_sheet_two_pager.pdf
- Parent Guidelines for Helping Youth after the Recent Shooting | http://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/assets/pdfs/parents_guidelines_for_helping_teens_after_the_recent_attacks.pdf
- Guía para los Padres Para Ayudar a los jóvenes después de un tiroteo reciente | http://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/assets/pdfs/parents_guidelines_for_helping_teens_after_the_recent_attacks_spanish.pdf
- Restoring a Sense of Safety in the Aftermath of a Mass Shooting: Tips for Parents and Professionals | http://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/assets/pdfs/csts_sense_of_safety.pdf
- E-Book for Children | http://piploproductions.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/OnceIWasVeryVeryScared.web_.4.pdf